Mom Pressure is Real – Part 2
In Mom Pressure Is Real – Part 1, I talked about the pressure of being a “good mom” and where that might come from. Let’s talk about the conflicted feelings women might be experiencing and the resources designed expressly to support women through anxiety, the baby blues, or serious postpartum depression.
Research performed by the American Psychological Association found that 1 in 7 women experience Postpartum Depression and Anxiety. Although not considered as serious as postpartum depression, many more suffer from the “baby blues,” feeling weepy, tired, stressed, and anxious for a time after their baby arrives.
So, now that you’re aware you’re experiencing some of these feelings, what can you do? Where do you start? I say, start here:
1. Take care of you FIRST – The demands of motherhood can seem unending and you can get caught up in the “busyness” of it all, so much that you start to forget about you. Make time to nurture yourself, to remember what you like to do, to socialize with friends, and start being yourself again. Check out this blog post from a mom who discovered the value of trusting “her gut:” I’m Done With Being a Good Mom
2. Limit the Input – There is so much information out there that you can be bombarded. Start defying our culture of “Hyper Parenting”, “Super Parenting” and “Comparison Parenting” and begin to trust yourself. You know what is good for you and your child. You are the mom!
3. Welcome Supportive People Into Your Life – There will always be time when you feel alone. However, that does not mean you are alone. Talk with other moms, follow “mom” bloggers (www.topmommyblogs.com/), find supportive individuals like the ones at Postpartum Progress (http://www.postpartumprogress.com/) and Shasta County’s Healthy Babies Program. You can even text 741741 and “talk” with a crisis counselor if you are feeling depressed, suicidal, or just need an ear. Seek out professionals such as a therapist or doctor who can lend you a listening ear. And if you have a friend or family member offer to help you get connected, allow them to support you!
YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB
I am here to tell you that YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB! When it comes down to it, your baby needs YOU. Babies and young children need the type of love they only see in your eyes. They need the reassuring touch that only you give and they need you to remember who you are. Your baby, unborn or born, needs YOU to be the best YOU can be!
Want to be better than a “good” mom? Do you FIRST! That’s exactly who your baby needs, wants, and loves most.
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